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Child Support Enforcement
BB227
1 post
Mar 24, 2007
7:43 PM
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As someone who has been dealing with the legal system for going on 8 years now due to a dead beat ex husband, why aren't there more angry women banding together and marching to get the laws changed? As it stands right now, in order to enforce collection in other states, we first have to file paperwork with the support unit in the state it was originated in to first prove someone lives in another state and then go about registering the order in that state... then sit and wait about a year PER STATE for it to be registered and another several months for that state to start enforcement. This only enables the deadbeats out there to skip from state to state and successfully avoid support payments. My ex learned that if he works for cash and moves around often, he is home free!
It's ridiculous! No wonder some women that I've talked to have all but given up and never try to collect what is due them, it becomes time consuming and costly to simply try to collect what is rightfully ours!
anyone else going through this?
Last Edited on 24-Mar-2007 7:45 PM
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NaughtybyNature
5 posts
Mar 25, 2007
8:04 AM
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Absolutely. My daughter's DBF owes me almost 28K!
Does the state where I live in does anything? NO! They toss him in jail every so often, stays there a couple of days until his dear family bails him out and whatever Order the Judge gives him of having to pay whatever amount until whatever day... he never complies w/.
When my daughter was 3 years old, he skipped state and went to TX. I had to do a search and pay out of my pocket to find him and to serve him w/ an Order so I could obtain full custody. When I called the police of the town where he lived in, they said they could not do anything for me, they had no agreements between NJ and TX. The only good thing came out of it, is that for more than 7 years I have full custody of my child vs. share custody.
Am I angry that the 28K could help me so, so much w/ all the expenses I have? Absolutely! As a matter of fact any money at all, kids are expensive... but what am I to do when the state to which I pay taxes for does not help me?
What am I to do, when he finds a job, he works "under the table", therefore making it impossible for any $ to be traced...
It is a very frustrating situation to all single parents trying to raise our children the best we can...
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BB227
2 posts
Mar 25, 2007
8:21 AM
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It is ridiculous! My support arrears goes up every week with the arrears amounting to nothing more to me than a number since it's uncollectable.
Another thing is a 'judgment' given in a divorce. That too is uncollectable as long as the debtor doesn't own any property and works off the books.
Currently, my ex owes me over 45 grand and despite going to jail here and there, my ex (and the courts) do not seem to care.
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Felicia
27 posts
Feb 02, 2009
10:28 AM
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The latest is that the great state of New York has now decided to charge a $25 annual service fee for custodial parents to have support from non-custodial parents collected and distributed via the county support collection units. I have a friend who recently moved to CA. She hired a company who found her ex - working under the table - in about three days (why can't the state hire them?). When the support check was mailed to her, the $25 fee was taken out. She hadn't received support in about four years.
Do they not realize that $25 is a prescription co-pay, a month of school lunches or a few trips to the barber? How are parents struggling to make ends meet on the $50 state minimum support (if it's even paid) supposed to pay those things on $25 less? Whose brilliant idea was it to penalize the custodial parents for needing to feed their kids?
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Proud to fight like a girl :-)
Last Edited on 2-Feb-2009 10:29 AM
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